My Precious Peanut :)

It was a Sunday morning with Sun shining bright on Vishaka's face as she pulled over her pillow aside!

Her parents face glowed with a smile, seeing her waking up. They had made a surprise to her with a wonderful "Happy birthday cake" saying 
"Happy Birthday our Darling. A little wonder is awaiting to meet you soon :) "

Yes, it was the little girl's 3rd birthday and indeed this birthday was very special :) 
Vishaka was on cloud nine seeing the yummy cake and she hugged her parents with ultimate joy and then the Day began wonderfully. 

Mr & Mrs. Hari wanted to convey their little daughter about a splendid surprise and share the happiness with her on this big day. They gave a tiny exploding gift box to Vishaka and asked her to open it, she slowly opened it with the help of her dad. She saw a small handmade painting with her portrait and a little boy on it, which read - "Sibling's love is the best. You are going to have a brother soon!!"

Yes, the couple was on their family way yet another time J On seeing the picture, she was so excited and instantly kissed her mom! Although Vishaka couldn't sense the meaning of it fully, she was happy seeing the portrait of her. It was such a wonderful moment for the couple, seeing their little daughter's reaction! There are some moments in life which will make you feel the completeness of parenting and it's essence in life, this is one such moment for Mr & Mrs. Hari!

“Congratulations, Happy parenting” J read the message on a beautiful flower bouquet to a couple. The friends and well-wishers wished them on this beautiful second innings in their journey. This moment was truly a fantastic miracle for the couple who was expecting their little blessing from God. 

The couple decides to write a letter to Vishaka and the little one to tell them how interesting their life is taking them as Parents!! Although they knew that their kids would not understand the nuances of it, at this age, however they always feel great in expressing their views, as they add a great value in near future !

Mrs. Pavithra Hari puts her pen down on her diary to publish her thoughts !

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Our Dear Angel Vishaka and Little Champ,

You both are truly a blessing from God to us. Every moment of yours is a treasure to cherish in our lives forever. As you grow up, you will understand the value of this letter from us. Treat this as a 'Gem' in your life :) 

Parenting is yet another amazing blessing in everyone's life. It is the most interesting and exciting phase which unites and strengthens the bond between the couple. It is a skilled art that every couple experiences in their life! It teaches us all the life lessons and a sense of responsibility.

Both pain and pleasure takes equal stand in bringing up the kids. You both complete our life as parents. Kids brings us a lot of joy and learning for us. It is been so far a great journey for us as Parents and we are so excited to experience it in double as we are going to have our little hero shortly in our family. We want to express our thoughts to you both as you cherish it and as you climb up the ladder in life.

You start your life as kids, cross your teenage, wish to be independent, fall in love to find your partner, experience the affection from your wedding and then turn as Parents with your kids. Your life journey begins at the stage when your child sees you, experiences your touch, values your words, feels your comfort, enjoys your love and care, learns from you and taste and enjoy the success of yours! :) These are the moments which will be cherished.

Our parents are our biggest Role models in life. Right from the day we were born and until today we as parents, we owe our success to our Parents. Our siblings were our greatest strength who stood as a soul mate and our husbands being a great support after marriage. And your mom being a Twin, cherished every other moment of life from childhood until now with wonderful memories and great pictures to look on always!

Every value that our parents taught, every relation that they introduced to us, every 
well-wisher that we came across, every lesson that they taught us etc, was all truly a good nutrition which kept nourishing our lives. The platform that they laid upon us, made us to walk smoothly. Of-course we had some obstacles on our way, mistakes that we did, depressions that we underwent, so on and so forth, but it all vanished in due course of time with our parents hope and faith on us.They gave a space to talk, a space to be independent, a room to enjoy our freedom, a room to improve ourselves, a space to be more responsible and matured. Every action made us to mold the way that we are now.

Our parents were and will be our biggest assets in life. Every prayer that they do is a worth a million for a kid. "When prayers go up, blessings come down". We are sure you will get the same affection and values from your grandparents whom we treat and owe with respect even now!

Here, we put forth some of the teachings & values that we learnt. It's a big list, but will enrich every day of your life beautifully. It's hard to follow everything even for us now, however there might be situations which makes to step into  your thoughts! We as Parents will always be there to hold your hands and support you, but we encourage you to take your decisions and feel the joy in it!

• See your Parents as Role models as they will give you only the best in life.
• Make love and care with your spouse as he/she will trust and believe you until your last breath.
• Feel the pleasure of parenthood and share the decisions with your Spouse as the Kid needs both equally. 
• Enjoy the sibling's affection everyday and cherish it forever in your memories. 
• Share your love and happenings from your life with your parents and siblings as they will be your soul mates too apart from your spouse.
• Be kind,Be nice and Be humble.It's hard to follow,however practice can make it happen.
• Always keep a positive attitude which makes you strong in life amidst obstacles. 
• Have 100% faith in God if you are a true believer of him.He will definitely shower his blessings at the right time and give you a deserving gift! 
• Don't worry too much about the past, because there are certain things which is out of our control, it is good to get over it to see the brighter side of life. 
• Learn the education in a practical manner, make it more interesting with examples as it might help you to cross stages in life.
• Hard work and dedication is a key to success. 
• Gracefully accept what life gives to you.There is something even in nothing and there is everything in something!
• Always keep a Fresh spectacles to look at over existing horizons, there is something NEW everyday.
• Interact more with family and friends as they will be an integral part of life.
• Learn to build a lot of patience even beyond your threshold limit.It teaches you what life is all about.
• Learn the roots of your family - your grandparents, aunts and uncles play a major role in your upbringing.
• Enjoy your success, but never take it to you head as it might bring you down again! 
• Surround with people who can lift you higher at your depressed state. 
• Make good and best friends from which you can experience life's memorable moments. Enjoy it to the fullest. 
• Sow your seeds to the next generation to cultivate your values and habits. You Lead the next generation.
• Learn to say NO politely for things which you feel might not click. 
• Protect your kids from all dangers, but at the same time boost them with confidence and courage to face every step in life.
• Have a Notebook and write your memories. Each page is just an open page. You can either scribble it or write a poetry on it. The choice is yours! Having a diary is the best companion which listens to your happiness and sorrow without any expectations :)  
• Make memories with beautiful photographs as can stay long and be a treasure.
• Have less expectations especially with your loved one as there might be situations which might hurt you.
• Be Honest, Be punctual and Be Disciplined as this will groom you up into a right person over the years.
• Teach the nuances of the real world and real happiness to your children.
• Teach your child to publish their talents and passion to the world without FEAR.
• Value the blessings and wishes of your well-wishers as they count the most in your life. 
• Learn from your failure & mistake as they fine tune and bring Success. 
• Create an awareness and teach your children on how to act with strangers, teach them what a good and bad touch means.
• Work hard until you find a situation to take a backseat and relax.
• Practice sharing in whatever you do. 
• Carry your patience even after you get married, adjust and satisfy your in laws and spouse's expectations as that will be your home. 
• Stay united with siblings and cousins, inner peace and joy comes from family.
• Learn to save your earnings and spend wisely. This is one of the biggest lesson that I learnt from my Dad.Thanks to his intense teachings on this which is making me matured to stand independent.
• My Mom has always been of a great support in teaching and indulging the patience in me.Even at the peak of our failure, she stood us behind to get back the normalcy in our lives. 

"You cant cross the sea merely by standing and staring at the water" - says the great poet Rabindranath Tagore

Every stage that you cross in life will be touching and challenging, it might have it's own ups and downs in life, positive and negative vibes, good and bad which changes over a period, but the good relationships that you hold never falls down. These are tiny flashes and praises in life which stands forever rather than pseudo emotions. So we have be bold and be ready for the change.

Believe in yourself my children and strive in life to get what you desire.We are there at your every steps to see your footprints getting marked in this society and your lives! 

We Love you both - Our Precious Peanuts !! You gave us birth as Parents!
Mom & Dad :)

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Mrs. Pavithra Hari put her pen down and closes her diary with this beautiful post. She wakes up from this wonderful Dream :) Besides her, was Hari in his deep sleep. She tried to make her feel settled from the hangover and felt joyous about the dream. 

With a sip of strong coffee in her balcony, she reads a line in an article - "You will experience some good dreams during your pregnancy" 

And yes, Pavithra and Hari were on their family way! She is 5 months pregnant with her first precious peanut in her womb :) 

I dedicate and owe this post to my parents and twin sis who has always stood beside me in nurturing me at every phase of my life apart from my husband who has been there always too. As I now attain the next phase of life, their guidance will help me in bringing the good mother in me! I am waiting to enjoy the fullest experience :) 

Disclaimer : The above post is purely my thoughts on Parenting. Any resemblance to this with a real person living or dead is purely coincidental. 

The BIG DAY - Mr & Mrs :)

"Dheergayushman bhava...." 

(A Sanskrit phrase in Hindu mythology which conveys "Blessings for a long life") 

The newly wedded couple was happy to receive this from an 80 year old man on their blissful occasion!

WEDDING- An interesting journey that most of us wish to experience in our lives!

It is supposed to be a strange yet a wonderful happening that happens in one's life. 

It amuses not only two strangers to meet and love, but two families to unite and share! 

Have you ever thought what Wedding is all about?

Have you ever thought why they say marriages are made in heaven? 

Have you ever got a chance to justify the way your wedding is done ? 

Or stood up to make your own wedding ? 

Have you ever dreamed of a life where all your wishes gets fulfilled ?

Have you ever thought that your aspirations will still pursue after wedding ? 

Or it vanishes after a duration?

Have you ever imagined that there is something more good than your compromises in your wedding ? Or thought that sacrifices takes the first stand in a wedding ? 

Have you ever made an idea to share your happiness to the needy at your wedding ? 

Or wanted a filthy rich wedding to start your next phase in life ? 

Is Marriage a Myth? or Truth?

Is there something called "Happy Marriage" in one's life? or its the Happiness that we define in the marriage?

A lot more questions (Pros &Cons) came up in my mind when I gave birth to this post. I am still a novice to quote my views on this topic, however it feels nice to paint your picture at your own wall!:) 

Here I go to describe and broaden the picture of a Indian wedding from my perspective! 

My quote on marriage gets defined this way - Two souls come in unison for a promising bond, enchanting love, fulfilling dreams and exciting days!

The much awaited wait would have been over with lot of happiness, an indescribable joy when both the families meet, parents thanking their beloved god for their prayers, the groom's delight comes along with taking more responsibilities on his shoulders and the bride's pleasure comes along with mixed emotions. These are few instances where your Marriage takes a big ride in your life! That moment will be the most memorable and cherishing moment in every bride's and groom's life!

With a ray of new hope, the bride and groom get hitched to start their next phase of life. A fresh season to celebrate with, A fresh story to write in your diary, A fresh change to look upon, a fresh challenge to take up, its yet another world with lot of learning, its yet another adventure with lot of courage & patience to withstand!

Everyone must had a big picture on how their life is going to treat them in this phase, whether its going to be the much excited one in your life with a great beginning or it's just another season in your life!

Weddings are lot more than this! It is just a coin which has 2 sides to look and lead upon it. When one understands the difference in it, they take the most privilege to taste this flavor of phase in their life. 

• Every wedding will have a compatible life partner who can excite you more than "Mr.Right" :) 
• Every wedding doesn't seek happy days life long, but every wedding can be made to be happy with little positive changes! 
• Every wedding doesn't have gloomy days completely ,different colors may be added to it to make Rainbow! 
• Every wedding need not have the best things in life, however your spouse can make it more interesting to beat the best! 
• Every wedding is not full of comprises and sacrifices of one's self, but any marriage can't be beautiful without little true compromises and patience! 
• Not all wedding requires an educated couple to lead a life, but it requires a couple who can face the challenge and make a betterment to each other! 
• Every marriage doesn't corner around a male chauvinist or a female chauvinist, however marriages gets scrutinized if anyone is chauvinist around! 
• Every wedding brings out a new opportunity to face, new ideas and beginnings to take over with wit and humor in life! 
• Every wedding does some magic to bring two hearts to one, which brings the ultimate happiness by showing the indifference! 
• Every marriage's happiness doesn't stop with Mr. & Mrs. happiness alone but the entire families happiness as well! 

With all the lines said upon, I would say that Marriage is one's life is a change for one self not alone to his characteristics but also to the situations. The change can either hit on the positive run or negative. The situations makes one self to act accordingly adopting to the people around. 

There is a lot of hope and ray at the other side of the tunnel, all we need is to have patience to cross it successfully. Our notions of the perfect prototype often hold us back from finding a true connection, since no real man can live up to those impossible standards. But as we grow up, we realize that the qualities we previously overlooked are the ones that really matter. 

Few things that I really look upon in your Mr. or Mrs. who can stand behind you for anything! 

• A person to encourage you, make you think what you are, make you grow on a extra mile and make you feel "wedding" is worth a million 
• Not in every situation that your partner understands you, but your partner never fails to let you dow 
• A person who sees your ambition as his/her, sees your goals as his/hers and strive towards to achieve it not 100% but at least to your fulfillment 
• A great sense of adjustment is must when you are in a joint family 
• Sometimes you need to bend your character a little to win the heart of your family 
• A huge amount of patience, trust and faith that needs to be tied around every couple 
• Trying to manage each other's expectations without much of hurdles 
• It is always 100% in everything from love to hatred, its just not 50-50! 
• Make some space for yourself and your spouse to spend after work 
• Make more positive vibes amidst all your worries 
• Practice joy & love, rather than sorrow & hatred because practice makes it perfect :) 
• Be a role model for your Kids by preaching good values and attitudes who can shine in the crowd 
• Take pride in encouraging / motivating each other's work 
• Every moment you spend in each phase of your life is a Learning curve for the next day 
• Define your success by proving to have a healthy and long journey 
• Don't miss to Celebrate your anniversary at any cost! Its the day that you found your Mr/Mrs! 
• Brush aside your worries and focus on correcting your mistakes which takes you a step higher 
• Coin your goals in a right manner with your spouse's  beside you 
• Second your spouse's suggestions at least for a trial, Change at times is good :) 
• Be supportive leaving your Ego behind the stand 
• Trying to balance work and home with your spouse's guidance 
• She is his Mrs and He is her Mr in every path in your life 

It is up to us to decide whether you as a couple will "Be on the rocks" or make your love to have"Head over heels". Tune your days with these positive thoughts always! 

With the all above, one can paint his/her wedding wonderfully with just not colors, but with good brushes! 

# My phrases for a wonderful wedding 

# From my house of memories 

# My own phrases painted 

A beautiful quote which I always remember - 

In life, there are some things we might never really "get over". Sometimes the best we can do is just "get through". But that's okay - there's still a lot of beauty to find on the other side! 

Make a Way for a New Beginning in this 2018 !! :)

Disclaimer : The above post is purely my thoughts and imaginations on the wedding. Any resemblance to this with a real person living or dead is purely coincidental.